Maybe you’ve read about the furious North Carolina father who blasted his daughter’s laptop nine times with a big-ass handgun and posted the video online. Maybe you’ve seen it, and heard his rant. The Daily Mail calls the dad’s stunt a “hilarious video” and a “very public lesson in respecting one’s elders.”
Just my ten cents, but we’re not talking about hilarity and respect, we’re talking about a tantrum. By the father, in response to a tantrum by his daughter. The 15-year-old complained about having to do chores. She did so in writing. Her father then replied to her with a deadly weapon. That is: the child used her words. Her father used bullets. And telling your child — and the world — “This one’s from your momma,” before firing a .45 at your kid’s possession, doesn’t teach respect or show tough love. It teaches your kid to be afraid, because a dad who lashes out in such anger, with a desire to inflict public humiliation on his daughter (the video’s been seen around 2 million times on YouTube) isn’t necessarily demonstrating the greatest self control. He’s acting even more immature than his teenager. And he’s doing it with a loaded gun.
And to all the commenters on the article who think the dad is awesome: I’ve raised three teenagers, and I don’t consider him a parenting hero.
I’ve said it before: Grown-ups, when somebody’s acting like a six-year-old, don’t lower yourself to their level. Be the adult.