“This one’s from your momma.”

“Angry father shoots daughter’s laptop with .45 pistol after she complains about chores on Facebook.”

Maybe you’ve read about the furious North Carolina father who blasted his daughter’s laptop nine times with a big-ass handgun and posted the video online. Maybe you’ve seen it, and heard his rant. The Daily Mail calls the dad’s stunt a “hilarious video” and a “very public lesson in respecting one’s elders.”

Just my ten cents, but we’re not talking about hilarity and respect, we’re talking about a tantrum. By the father, in response to a tantrum by his daughter. The 15-year-old complained about having to do chores. She did so in writing. Her father then replied to her with a deadly weapon. That is: the child used her words. Her father used bullets. And telling your child — and the world — “This one’s from your momma,” before firing a .45 at your kid’s possession, doesn’t teach respect or show tough love. It teaches your kid to be afraid, because a dad who lashes out in such anger, with a desire to inflict public humiliation on his daughter (the video’s been seen around 2 million times on YouTube) isn’t necessarily demonstrating the greatest self control. He’s acting even more immature than his teenager. And he’s doing it with a loaded gun.

And to all the commenters on the article who think the dad is awesome: I’ve raised three teenagers, and I don’t consider him a parenting hero.

I’ve said it before: Grown-ups, when somebody’s acting like a six-year-old, don’t lower yourself to their level. Be the adult.

6 responses to ““This one’s from your momma.”

  1. Thank you for saying this, but that it *had* to be said because it *wasn’t* said by the other supposed grown-ups – the ones with media access to more people – is something I find quite disturbing. It’s not just the dad who did the shooting who’s behaving irresponsibly like a child; it’s also everyone else cheering him on. Wow.

  2. Amen, Meg! Right on, Jason. Reacting to a teenager’s rant, and standing up for principles as a parent, is admirable. But doing it as a role model for public humiliation and bad behavior is deplorable. Life is not a Quentin Tarantino movie.

  3. What Monita said.

  4. What. A. Jerk.

    His anger was palpable, but his actions were beyond the pale. Too bad he didn’t immediately realize what an a** he had been before posting the video. … and so, what did you just teach your daughter?

  5. If this does not constitute legal grounds to take the gun away from dad it should. I would take the kids away too unless he agrees to counseling.

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